With Open Arms or Skepticism

In life, people come and go.  Some last forever and some only for a little while.  It’s strange, who ends up staying and who goes.  The people you expect to leave turn out to be the ones who stay, and the ones you think will never leave your side eventually desert you.

What do you do when someone who left your life wants to come back?  Do you welcome them with open arms, or greet them with skepticism?

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8 thoughts on “With Open Arms or Skepticism

  1. Both. The skepticism I will keep as I watch and observe. But if someone comes back, (except a few exceptions), I will open my arms and heart to them. Some people are birds and they have to fly away. I accept this. But if they are monsters and they left with cruelty…I have to take caution. Know what I mean?

    • Yeah, I know what you mean. I think I’m going to let them back in, but I just don’t know if I can trust them after the way they left. *sigh* It’s very difficult for me to forgive people. But I guess everyone deserves a second chance, even if it’s a very cautious one.

      Thanks for commenting!

      • Oh…your post wasn’t just a philosophical thought for conversation? You are in the situation right now? I meant my response for how I react. But I get hurt over and over. I don’t know you…or the situation. Weigh the pros and cons. If this person didn’t hurt you intentionally is the true question. I let people that hurt me intentionally come back based off forgiveness and how they come back. But some people just leave with no intention of hurting. There is a personality type where people run from those they love on a regular basis. And to me….that is okay bc I tend to be one of those people from time to time, so I understand. But if you are going to let someone back, that hurt you, play it safe. One day at a time and think of what is best for you. Hugs and hopefully this person isn’t someone that causes you pain. Love and Light to you.

    • Yeah, unfortunately this is happening right now.
      I don’t think they hurt me intentionally and are genuinely sorry and wants to come back and fix things. Which is great, I missed them and we were such good friends, but it’s still going to be hard for me to let go of the hurt.

  2. Oh and it is okay if it takes awhile to forgive someone as long as you’re open to the idea of forgiveness eventually. I have a few relationships that I am still working on. Just because someone comes back and you let them come back doesn’t mean you have to give them your full trust right off the bat. Trust is earned with time. So is forgiveness.

  3. for me, it very much depends on how hurt i am that they left in the first place. you know, if i ever “recovered” from it. if they were really important in my life, chances are that i might still “want them back in my life”, but also resent what they did.
    though after time, forgiveness becomes really easy for me, because i just stop caring at some point. if that’s when they return, i’m always open for a fresh start. 🙂

    • That’s how I feel right now. I want them to come back because we were so close and such good friend, but I still resent the fact that they even left in the first place.
      Lucky for you that you’re open for fresh starts, they’ve always been hard for me.

      Thanks so much for commenting!

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